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Well . . you may remember my husband lost his government contract after more than 20 yrs as a Flight Simulator tech. and has been out of work for over 2 months now. We had an offier in Ohio a while back but have been holding out for a local position as I have always lived in Georgia with daughters, grandkids and elderly mother here also . . and nursing job of 21 yrs. But he got a second call for a position in Ohio and had no choice but to accept. He will be leaving May 1st and if our house sells as we are praying it will, Sami, Carley and I will be leaving to join him the end of June.
I have had 3 days of crying and feel quite dehydrated . . frightened . . angry . . etc. Now that I have had a little grief time . . I feel a wee bit better. This is a high snow state and we literally get NO snow here ever. So this will be a hugh challenge for me as I own very few long sleeve blouses and 1 coat . . we never need them! My daughters are in shambles . . but being very supportive on the exterior for me . . bless them.
Sami and Carley both hate the extreme heat of summers here . . their black coats just absorb the heat and they always choose shady areas in the yard and avoid the blazzing sun as much as possible. They have never seen snow but I am anticipating they will adapt much better than me!! Sami is a very poor car traveler and drools and vomits if in a car more than 20 minutes. I will visit the vet and ask for recommendations about this as it is an 8 to 10 hr drive. We plan to fold down the back seat of my car and crate them separately but have them together with me. I DRED this drive and am thinking the vet will recommend sedation of some sort. I have thought about not feeding him before we leave . . this will be a LONG fast for him and would love any recommendations anyone would have. I hate for him to be sedated and sick at the same time . . and we will make every 2 hr stops . . so I would really like for him to be alert enough to pee or poo . . HELP
 
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Oh Tess . . thank you so much . . I am confident they will LOVE snow . . and we will be ariving in the summer, so will have several months of brilliant weather in the 70 to 80s before the snow hits . . this will be a bit of a reprieve for me to gear up!!
We are toying with several traveling options . . half way, then stop for the night, traveling at nighttime . . or bite the bullet and getting it over with in one day. Waiting for some advise from others as well on this site more seasoned than me with this worry.
 
well first thank god you all got back to work. all though it is far away. and is very hard on your family ,you know one has to do what one has to do. all thought the trip may be a little hard on your puppys I think they will come through just find. I had a dog that would through up just sitting in a car Haa Haa .well I really hope all works out wonderfully well for you and please don't for get us here please
 
Nanci I am so so sorry that this good thing (getting a job) also has to make you sad.:( I know that where you are and where you are going are two very different places as far as weather and culture go.
You are such a nice person. So funny and kind. I know you will make friends fast and settle right in. The poos will love the snow and you will love watching them.
I am excited that you are closer to us! Where will you be exactly?
 
Big Hugs!
Congratulations to your husband for getting back to work. We are in a similar situation to you without yet a new job to go to...
Just try and think of it as being an opportunity to get out of the comfortable rut you have been in - it is an adventure. Honestly!
Sami and Carley will be your initial support network and we'll all be here at the other end of a computer button.
Travel with the windows wide open, stop every two hours and get it done in a day.
Lots of love - who knows it might just be the best thing for you and your husband to do at this point in your lives - you get a new beginning :)
 
What an adventure this will be - of course it will be a huge upheaval and I am not surprised there have been lots of tears, you can always say to yourself that one day when your hubby has finally retired you could choose to move back if you want to then. As for the journey, it is fine for dogs to fast for a day so it maybe worth giving them their last meal before the journey around lunchtime the day before (presuming you will be leaving in the morning), If they are really bad I imagine the vet may prescribe some kind of sedative although maybe just a good travel sickness tablet would be enough. You will be able to join in with pictures of dogs with 'snowballs'! I wish you lots of luck - but as Donna said you are such a lovely person I expect you will find some great new friends really quickly. xx
 
Congratulations on your husbands new job. At least that's one worry over. Now you have to be positive about moving. You might love it. Dogs are quite stoical so do what's right for you.....after all you are the one doing the driving! They will be happy just being beside you. It's tough leaving your family, so it's important that you have a plan in place for occupying yourself when you get to your new home so you can make new friends, enjoy new hobbies, or refresh some old ones and try to get back to visit on a regular basis infact have a date set in stone to visit family prior to leaving, that way it won't feel such a wrench.
 
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You all have given me such wonderful advise . . I'm in tears (again) . . it doesnt take much right now!!! I adore you all and you will be a source of comfort thru this journey for me!!! I'm not young any more and this will be a very hard few months!! I worry about every detail!! its just a curse of my nature!! Thank you so much for the advise . . I think I will try starving them . . I cant bear to watch Sami vomit!! Its so pitiful . . I havent had Carley get sick in a car yet . . but she has only been on short journeys we plan to stop often and drive the whole way thru . . holy moley . . its gonna be a LONG trip . .with stopping . . over 12 hrs. I promice I will have my humor back soon . . its hard to keep me down!!
Heres one for you . . of cource when you're planning on moving . . things start breaking . . right?? Kitchen sink clogged yesterday on the disposal side so husband got a new one today and was on the kitchen floor while I was at work trying to change them out. (Hes not the greatest handyman . . bless him) after FOUR hrs (should have been a 2 hr job) he was worn out having to stop and take them out, and not knowing what he was doing etc . . he was in the process of putting the last 2 screws in and looked down and they were both GONE!!! He went into the living room and Carley had one at her feet, throwing it up in the air . . . the other one is STILL MISSING??? OMG!! Really?? It was not large . . and had a blount end . . so if by chance she swallowed it . . I pray it passes thru!!! She seems quite fine . . I am praying it is somewhere in the house and we have just not found it. The finale is . . husband took Sami to Lowes (hugh store with home goods) and the only place in this town dogs can go . . to get ANOTHER screw and as he was in plumbing department with Sami on a leash . . he looked back and Sami was taking a POOP on the concrete floor!!!! OMG!!!! Poor hubby is BEGGING to go back to work!!! LOL!!!!! I still cant believe he did that . . very unlike him (Sami) I laughed soooo hard at his discription of the sales guy tapping him on the shoulder and pointing to his dog pooping on the floor . . really needed that laugh!!!!
AND . . all you smart allicks . . no comments about Sami seeing the plumming sign and being courtious enough to obey!!! LOL LOL LOL
 
Sami - impeccable timing!
He just needed to give you a laugh :D

I'm thinking of you and praying for you.

Don't be hard on yourself, Nanci - tears are a necessary part of the process of saying goodbye to so much.
As others have said - make plans to come home and visit and make sure your daughters are ready to bring their families to you for the holidays - snow, 'poos and grandchildren - the perfect combination.
I'm imagining you facing up to packing up your home and having to get rid of so much that will have accumulated over years of family living. Expect more tears.
What is the housing market like for you and is your plan on selling the house in the next couple of months realistic?
Does your husband get accomodation as part of the deal while waiting for you to relocate?
How do house prices compare from Georgia to Ohio?
Are you job hunting too?
 
Nanci, well done on hubby getting a job and good for you both to upsticks and head off in a new direction. We all like our comfort zones (especially me) but I'm also a great believer in getting out of that comfort zone whenever possible.

Carley & Sami will love the snow and will help you make lots of new friends.

Promise us you'll send us a picture of them both playing in the snow (when winter descends on us again).

Oh one last thing, I think your snow in USA is the nice dry type snow and easier to get about in.
 
Oh Nanci I do feel for you! I remember when I went to live in Hong Kong for nearly 5 years, my mother really feeling sad about me leaving, especially as we had just had our first son. However, she told me later that she really enjoyed the visits and got to stay with us for a month at a time, twice a year. They felt they really got involved with their grandchildren's routines, etc and enjoyed the challenge in the end. I think it was good advice that you can always move back closer to your family when you retire. Or maybe, they will move closer to you! Big hugs! x
 
Nanci, you are facing a massive change in your life so it's no surprise you feel teary and a little scared :hug:. However, it's great that hubby has a new job and once you actually get there you will feel a whole lot better. Sometimes change is really good and it might bring a new whole new lease of life to you all.

I can't offer much advice on the journey but agree fasting is a good idea. The longest journey my two have ever done was 6 hours in the car when we got stuck in heavy traffic on the way to Cornwall, think we stopped once for a toilet break and they coped really well, much better than I expected. These little dogs are more resilient than you think.

Loved your story of Sami pooping in the store, how funny. These are the Nanci stories we all love and I'm sure you'll have many more to share.
 
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Donna . . we will be in the Fairborn Ohio area and Marzi . . we are allowed a moving allowance . . and Freddy will be staying with his boss (and friend) until we find a house . .the markets are about the same price wise. I will probably not be working again . . we will see . . I may get bored. I had already cut my hrs. to 6 per day, so I just am not sure yet. Our house is on a cul de sac so should sell quickly . . but the market is fickle . .so prayers please for a quick sale!
I think Sami and Carley will LOVE the change in weather . . they HATE the heat of the summers here . . its VERY humid and scorching hot and they generally walk only in shaded areas. They love the scarce frosty mornings . . run like mad and actually hate to come in. So, even tho they have not seen snow . . they will love it I will be sure and post LOTS of pictures of them in their new home, especially the first snow . . that will be a hoot!!!!! As I said before . . I will have the summer to acculamate to NO snow . . and my sister is there to help me find my way around.
Thank you all again for your support . . it means more to me than you can imagine . . I need the positivity right now as my family is very sad . . have not told my boss yet . . UGH! I really dred that. He does know its a possibility as Freddy has been searching for several months now. Much love . . hugs and kisses for cheering me up!!!
 
Good to think of your husband as 'Freddy' not 'Mr Nanci', as he always is in my head!
Well it sounds good re your move arrangements, so we'll just pray specifically for the right buyer to come view your beautiful house and then that you find the perfect house in Ohio.

Also that you find an excellent place to shop for cold weather gear!

Just take it all one day at a time, you'll be fine :)
 
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Ahhh Marzi . . you are like a soothing balm to me!! Sorry . . didnt realize I had never actually named him?? Mr Nanci . . thats funny!! He would just love hearing that . . not!!
He is my LOVE . .Sami is second man in my lfe!! lol
 
Ahhh Marzi . . you are like a soothing balm to me!! Sorry . . didnt realize I had never actually named him?? Mr Nanci . . thats funny!! He would just love hearing that . . not!!
He is my LOVE . .Sami is second man in my lfe!! lol
Somebody else can up with Mr Nanci on a previous thread - and it made me laugh at the time :D
I'm sure that you have named him, but Mr Nanci just stuck....
 
Och Nanci, hope you're doing ok.

Some lovely comments and advice from everyone and remember we will be moving with you :)...you can come on here and vent anytime however knowing you, you'll be busy making lots of new friends and will put 100% effort into it .

It's so very hard moving away from family but technology is wonderful these days. Hopefully you can use Skype etc to keep in touch and I'm sure they'll come to visit you and see the snow!!

Hang on in there :hug:

xxx
 
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