Well said Dave
A Gentle Reminder
Posting on the Internet is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you get to talk to a lot of people from all walks of life and hear a lot of different view points. But on the other hand, we all hide behind a cloak of anonymity. This anonymous nature of posting on forums can sometimes lead us to get carried away and say things we don't really mean, etc.
With that said, I'd just like to remind everyone that we're here to discuss our cockapoos, and the joys & responsibilities that come along with owning a dog. We're not here to play a game of who's right and who's wrong, or who's better than whom. Before you make a post on the forums, especially in a heated discussion or debate, think to yourself first:
"Is this something I would say to this person if I was talking to them face-to-face?"
If you answer yes, then submit the post. If you question yourself though and believe the answer may be no, then don't submit the post. At the very least, take a break and wait a little while to submit the post. Get your mind away from the situation. When you're ready, come back and re-read your post. Chances are, you'll realize that what you wrote might be a bit harsh, aggressive/defensive, etc.
Keep in mind that emotions don't always translate in written text. If you post something lighthearted with a hint of sarcasm, someone else might not pick up on the sarcasm. This could result in them interpreting your message as hostile or mean. Please re-read your posts and think twice before you submit them.
We're all here to have a good time and make friendships. Don't sweat the small stuff. If you disagree with someone, you always have the option to stop responding or add that person to your ignore list. Sometimes you'll just have to agree to disagree on certain matters.
I've been running forums since 2004. If there's one thing I learned about this topic over that time period, it's that members can often avoid confrontations by thinking about the question I posed earlier:
"Is this something I would say to this person if I was talking to them face-to-face?"
Hiding behind the cloak of anonymity, it's easy to assert yourself and not worry about what the other person might think. I'm asking everyone: do think about what the other person might think! If you really think about it, it's just not worth it (and certainly not fun) to get into arguments over petty disputes on an Internet forum.
So what do you say? Will you all try to keep all the conversations here lighthearted so everyone can enjoy themselves and have fun?
I might be making some more announcements on related matters over the next couple days, depending on how things progress. Stay tuned for that.
Thanks,
With that said, I'd just like to remind everyone that we're here to discuss our cockapoos, and the joys & responsibilities that come along with owning a dog. We're not here to play a game of who's right and who's wrong, or who's better than whom. Before you make a post on the forums, especially in a heated discussion or debate, think to yourself first:
"Is this something I would say to this person if I was talking to them face-to-face?"
If you answer yes, then submit the post. If you question yourself though and believe the answer may be no, then don't submit the post. At the very least, take a break and wait a little while to submit the post. Get your mind away from the situation. When you're ready, come back and re-read your post. Chances are, you'll realize that what you wrote might be a bit harsh, aggressive/defensive, etc.
Keep in mind that emotions don't always translate in written text. If you post something lighthearted with a hint of sarcasm, someone else might not pick up on the sarcasm. This could result in them interpreting your message as hostile or mean. Please re-read your posts and think twice before you submit them.
We're all here to have a good time and make friendships. Don't sweat the small stuff. If you disagree with someone, you always have the option to stop responding or add that person to your ignore list. Sometimes you'll just have to agree to disagree on certain matters.
I've been running forums since 2004. If there's one thing I learned about this topic over that time period, it's that members can often avoid confrontations by thinking about the question I posed earlier:
"Is this something I would say to this person if I was talking to them face-to-face?"
Hiding behind the cloak of anonymity, it's easy to assert yourself and not worry about what the other person might think. I'm asking everyone: do think about what the other person might think! If you really think about it, it's just not worth it (and certainly not fun) to get into arguments over petty disputes on an Internet forum.
So what do you say? Will you all try to keep all the conversations here lighthearted so everyone can enjoy themselves and have fun?
I might be making some more announcements on related matters over the next couple days, depending on how things progress. Stay tuned for that.
Thanks,
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Thank you Dave. I love this forum as have learned a lot about Cockapoos and have hopefully given a bit of advice along the way although not much as Beau is only 5 months old but I have always had dogs. I also love seeing other Cockapoos and how they are getting on but I have to say I have been getting a bit fed up lately with some of the arguments as they were getting very personal and as you say if someone doesn't agree with something then don't follow that thread! Thank you once again for setting up such a brilliant forum
As long as it is acknowledged that people are allowed to have their own opinions then there is no reason why this can't be a nice place to talk Cockapoo. It doesn't have to get personal, we are all grown ups and should be able to discuss things objectively. We will never all agree with each other about everything but there are people on here who have a lot of experience and knowledge and I personally would like to hear from everyone.
Thanks Dave, couldn't agree more
Totally agree with youAs long as it is acknowledged that people are allowed to have their own opinions then there is no reason why this can't be a nice place to talk Cockapoo. It doesn't have to get personal, we are all grown ups and should be able to discuss things objectively. We will never all agree with each other about everything but there are people on here who have a lot of experience and knowledge and I personally would like to hear from everyone.
What I say on forums I would say to some-ones face.
I would not like to think that members could effectively vote another member off by pressing a button! That is why we have mods, they are an unbiased forum member who can look at threads objectively.
A forum is a public platform for discussions, you have private messages if you want to discuss behind closed doors. How would you decide who could join your private thread? Doesn't sound very inclusive to me.
Just airing some thoughts and ideas really as it looks like Dave is thinking about ways to adapt the forum to take the heat off a bit. The forum isn't always as light hearted and fun as it used to beI would not like to think that members could effectively vote another member off by pressing a button! That is why we have mods, they are an unbiased forum member who can look at threads objectively.
A forum is a public platform for discussions, you have private messages if you want to discuss behind closed doors. How would you decide who could join your private thread? Doesn't sound very inclusive to me.
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