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Why? :/ It makes me really sad that people are leaving 
No more leaving pleaseWhy? :/ It makes me really sad that people are leaving
this is all just so silly, we need to remember why we are all here in the first place, fun! Try not to take it all so seriously hun 
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Don't worry there are loads of people on here still and new members joining all the time.
People come and go on forums as is the nature of forum life
What other thread?? I don't know why Jane is leaving ... surely there's no need. Sue xxJust read the other thread...I now know why
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Look in chit chat Please please let's start again thread...
It's really sad, lots of the older members seem to be leaving. I have noticed quite a few names missing from when I joined although as Shirley says people do come and go but for me it's the circumstances in which people leave is what is important.
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I also just found the thread & read it :/
& although it is true that people come & go, circumstances at this moment in time are making more disappear at the same time
So I wish people would just chill & go back to the fun & happy ILMC forum that I joined!
It's not about breeders or who likes or dislikes who, it's about making friends with people with simialr interests & sharing advice & stories about all our lovely cockapoos!
But trust me, this forum is easy compared to others, so count yourselves lucky to be on here & not the others if you don't like confrontation
& although it is true that people come & go, circumstances at this moment in time are making more disappear at the same time
So I wish people would just chill & go back to the fun & happy ILMC forum that I joined!
It's not about breeders or who likes or dislikes who, it's about making friends with people with simialr interests & sharing advice & stories about all our lovely cockapoos!
But trust me, this forum is easy compared to others, so count yourselves lucky to be on here & not the others if you don't like confrontation
I joined ILMC a few months ago, I've learnt a lot but like many other members find the bickering tedious. A couple of olive branches have been offered today - let's hope it's not too little too late. Let's please respect that we don't truly know each nor each other's tolerance or sensitivity levels.For the more feisty amongst you, if in doubt have your rants and arguments over personal messanging - I truly believe that this would make the forum a happier place to visit and where breeders are concerned would make them appear a lot more trustworthy and credible. I can't speak for anyone else but I ruled out a few of the larger breeders after witnessing their activity and comments on the forum.
This whole situation is horrible. On the one hand I feel drawn to read each dramatic thread and on the other hand it all leaves me feeling a bit... disheartened and flat. What I am swiftly learning as a forum virgin (sorry Kendal!) is that forums can be so unnecessarily bitchy - people say things they'd never DARE say face-to-face and to be frank I find that this downright gutless because people are only hiding behind their anonymity (hmmm, perhaps I'm being a bit hypocritical here!)
What I know it this: life is stressful - family life can be stressful, relationships are stressful, work is most definitely stressful and for my part my journey into work with angry London commuters is quite possibly the most stressful part of my day. My pets - for the time being my cats - are my respite. I hope one day to add a beautiful Cockapoo to my pet family and joining ILMC was part and parcel of this decision.
I enjoy the forum for friendships I have made, for the possibility of meets, for health and behavioural information and for brilliant pictures. I have zero interest in boring breeding point-scoring squabbles so please let's stop this as we have now lost two members which is quite frankly, really sad.
Turi x
This whole situation is horrible. On the one hand I feel drawn to read each dramatic thread and on the other hand it all leaves me feeling a bit... disheartened and flat. What I am swiftly learning as a forum virgin (sorry Kendal!) is that forums can be so unnecessarily bitchy - people say things they'd never DARE say face-to-face and to be frank I find that this downright gutless because people are only hiding behind their anonymity (hmmm, perhaps I'm being a bit hypocritical here!)
What I know it this: life is stressful - family life can be stressful, relationships are stressful, work is most definitely stressful and for my part my journey into work with angry London commuters is quite possibly the most stressful part of my day. My pets - for the time being my cats - are my respite. I hope one day to add a beautiful Cockapoo to my pet family and joining ILMC was part and parcel of this decision.
I enjoy the forum for friendships I have made, for the possibility of meets, for health and behavioural information and for brilliant pictures. I have zero interest in boring breeding point-scoring squabbles so please let's stop this as we have now lost two members which is quite frankly, really sad.
Turi x
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Totally agree Turi Well said! Life is too short
Well said! Life is too short That is totally unfair why on earth would a forum member leave after a couple of posts,thats absolutely rediculous to blame me for that.she has been in arguments with other members before and not left that was tiny and i asked her to block me which is what youre meant to do,i have also had several pms and emails agreeing so please guys dont blame me for one post,her other arguments have been far worse in the past( not with me i might add) and she didnt leave.please no nasty comments,im allowed to stick up for myself!
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Dont leave Jayne and gorgeous George!!!!!!!!
I must admit afew months ago i had to step back and think about coming on here and saying stuff as i hate to get into arguments! So i didnt comment on anything for a while (boy was that hard as i love to talk lol)
Anyway i couldnt stay away for long ! i hope you'll feel the same ,i suppose like real life we cant always get on with everyone we meet ?
Take care Donna and Buddy xxxx
I must admit afew months ago i had to step back and think about coming on here and saying stuff as i hate to get into arguments! So i didnt comment on anything for a while (boy was that hard as i love to talk lol)
Anyway i couldnt stay away for long ! i hope you'll feel the same ,i suppose like real life we cant always get on with everyone we meet ?
Take care Donna and Buddy xxxx
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Sorry Mandy this was not directed specifically at you - tho I can now see why you think it was. It was just a reflection on the recent spate of members that have left. I personally do not have axes to grind with anyone. I have met some lovely people (quite a few now in the flesh) and I just thinkit is a shame when they leave in this manner - that's all - I did not mean any offence.
Thank you colin.im a big softy and got really upset at the thought at being blamed for someones departure xxx
Thanks Colin, I've just read the thread you mention. I don't think it's necessary at all for Jayne(curt) to leave ... I guess it's just a case of the last staw, as couldn't have been because of Mandym's post. This was meant to be an "olive branch" thread as well!
Sue x
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It is always sad to see people leave a group of fellows that have something in common, whatever walk of life you are in. Sharing common factors with others is fun. However too much of many good things can go sour, even dare I say ILMC. Taking a break is a choice that many say they do and come back refreshed. It seems to me that what 'the leavers' are wanting for everyone else to hear is something like 'Hey guys, I'm feeling......(whatever they are feeling)' (and they have every right to say how they feel) otherwise they would just quietly take a break. I suppose that's where a little empathy is invaluable even on a forum.
Having said all that if anyone chooses to take a break or leave that is their personal choice, blaming a another for that choice is transference and not appropriate in any walk of life or relationship. We all made our own choices to both join and leave any given situation and/or forum.
Julia x
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