Does he cry at night or generally?
A lot of puppies miss their litter mates at first, so try to be there at all times to comfort. He needs to build that attachment and special bond with you, once done he will stop crying for his littermates and cry for you (take that as a win😅)
At night, sleep next/very close to him. Do not expect him to sleep by himself in the first few days.
Now when it comes to the crate: put all his toys in it and feed him in the crate, DO NOT close the door, but let him wander in and out as he pleases until he likes it and willingly goes in by himself. Only then, can you do the next step. Mind you, not all dogs will do well in a crate and a playpen or a puppy safe room might be options.

 

I'm having the same issue with my 9-10 week old puppy. I'm a little anxious on whether she is displaying normal behaviour, and whether I'm doing the right things for her.

I'm working from home at the moment and since she came home with me at 8 weeks, she barely left my side other than during the night when she slept in a create downstairs. She cried for a few nights then recently, we had 2-3 days of barely a noise, then after that she's been worse than when she first came home.

Today I have decided that she should probably spend some time alone, as being with us all day can't be mentally healthy if she's following us literally everywhere. I set up a space in one of our downstairs rooms, which has her crate, toys, and a bit of space to hang around in.

I've found that from the moment I put her in there, she cries as soon as I get out of sight until the moment I appear again. It doesn't matter if it's 2 mins or 2 hours, she just constrantly groans and wails.

Other than this, she has been reacting well to being at home with us. In the first week, she has learnt to sit, stay (until we try and leave the room) and has been pretty good about eliminating outside. Only the occasional accident which is totally expected.

I've never had a dog previously. It seems pretty early to consider that she's developed any sort of serious separation anxiety as a result of me letting her relax around me for a solid week. I just want to make sure I take the correct steps now to ensure she can relax on her if I wasn't able to be around her.

In terms of how I treat her, I've generally only put her in her crate before today when I'm going to bed. She went in a couple times by herself in the first couple days, but doesn't really use it since.

Thanks for any advice in advance.

 

I'm having the same issue with my 9-10 week old puppy. I'm a little anxious on whether she is displaying normal behaviour, and whether I'm doing the right things for her.

I'm working from home at the moment and since she came home with me at 8 weeks, she barely left my side other than during the night when she slept in a create downstairs. She cried for a few nights then recently, we had 2-3 days of barely a noise, then after that she's been worse than when she first came home.

Today I have decided that she should probably spend some time alone, as being with us all day can't be mentally healthy if she's following us literally everywhere. I set up a space in one of our downstairs rooms, which has her crate, toys, and a bit of space to hang around in.

I've found that from the moment I put her in there, she cries as soon as I get out of sight until the moment I appear again. It doesn't matter if it's 2 mins or 2 hours, she just constrantly groans and wails.

Other than this, she has been reacting well to being at home with us. In the first week, she has learnt to sit, stay (until we try and leave the room) and has been pretty good about eliminating outside. Only the occasional accident which is totally expected.

I've never had a dog previously. It seems pretty early to consider that she's developed any sort of serious separation anxiety as a result of me letting her relax around me for a solid week. I just want to make sure I take the correct steps now to ensure she can relax on her if I wasn't able to be around her.

In terms of how I treat her, I've generally only put her in her crate before today when I'm going to bed. She went in a couple times by herself in the first couple days, but doesn't really use it since.

Thanks for any advice in advance.

Thanks for your reply.

It might possibly be a case of this being my first pet, and me reading too much into different approaches to training.

I am absolutely happy for her (Molly) to hang out with me as much as she likes, but I am concerned that when I am forced to leave her alone, those times are going to be incredibly distressing for her if I don't get her early training right.

A week or so on from my original post, she is now fairly happy to go to bed alone at night if she's sufficiently worn out. She cries a little and then sleeps. I get up in the night to take her outside, and when she goes back to bed for the remainder of the night she rarely cries at all. She often jumps into the bed on her own and settles right down before I leave.

The issue comes when I leave her alone during. I'm assuming she is now sufficiently aware of the night-time routine and goes along with it. If I leave her alone during the day however, she begins crying almost immediately and barely stops until I return. During this time, she also often pees and poops out of what I assume is distress. This being despite her taking to the house-training as well as I could imagine for a 12-week old puppy.

Going forward, there are going to be times when I have to leave the house whilst she remains at home. I understand that if I get this wrong, she could develop separation anxiety and this could be extremely distressing for her every time I leave and I don't want that for her.

I'm getting extremely anxious that I am not doing the right thing. I've been leaving her for short periods a a time the last few days, in an attempt to show her that she will occasionally be alone, but I will always return.

Any advice on how you dealt with such behaviour in the early weeks would be appreciated. She's a lovely puppy and I'd hate to cause her psychological issues, but it's hard to decipher who online is right regarding teach her to 'self-soothe' as I've heard it called.

Poor thing, she's making herself sick with anxiety! I feel your anxiety too and know you are searching hard for the right thing to do. Some dogs are never happy when their owners are away and I don't know how to fix that. My dog is happy to take a nap when I'm gone, he has the run of the house and feels safe and confident. When he was very little, I could hear him cry when I had to leave him and go to work but gradually he became adjusted. He's well aware of the difference when I'm home, and is upset if he can't be near me, although its mild -- he'll scratch at the door when I occasionally close it to take a meeting. I think for you now the best thing is to build your dog's emotional stability, assurance and confidence by letting her be with you as much as she wants. If she's worried about being locked away from you, I can see how that would make her super upset. The early months are so hard, but it sounds like you have a great bond and are trying very hard to do the right thing. Little by little, a routine will emerge that you both feel comfortable with. Best of luck to you both.

 

Cockapoos aren't loners by nature. They loooove their people and want to be together all the time. I think the forced separation makes them more anxious and desperate to be near you. Why not let her hang out where ever you are? She'll feel more calm and settled, and more likely to stay alone for a bit if she knows she can easily get to you whenever she wants. These dogs are born and bred to be companions so why not let them?

 

Thanks for your reply.

It might possibly be a case of this being my first pet, and me reading too much into different approaches to training.

I am absolutely happy for her (Molly) to hang out with me as much as she likes, but I am concerned that when I am forced to leave her alone, those times are going to be incredibly distressing for her if I don't get her early training right.

A week or so on from my original post, she is now fairly happy to go to bed alone at night if she's sufficiently worn out. She cries a little and then sleeps. I get up in the night to take her outside, and when she goes back to bed for the remainder of the night she rarely cries at all. She often jumps into the bed on her own and settles right down before I leave.

The issue comes when I leave her alone during. I'm assuming she is now sufficiently aware of the night-time routine and goes along with it. If I leave her alone during the day however, she begins crying almost immediately and barely stops until I return. During this time, she also often pees and poops out of what I assume is distress. This being despite her taking to the house-training as well as I could imagine for a 12-week old puppy.

Going forward, there are going to be times when I have to leave the house whilst she remains at home. I understand that if I get this wrong, she could develop separation anxiety and this could be extremely distressing for her every time I leave and I don't want that for her.

I'm getting extremely anxious that I am not doing the right thing. I've been leaving her for short periods a a time the last few days, in an attempt to show her that she will occasionally be alone, but I will always return.

Any advice on how you dealt with such behaviour in the early weeks would be appreciated. She's a lovely puppy and I'd hate to cause her psychological issues, but it's hard to decipher who online is right regarding teach her to 'self-soothe' as I've heard it called.

 

We just got our Cockapoo puppy and cries
seems homesick for his littermates
Doesnt like the crate and doesn’t sleep well
please help

When I wrote that we had just gotten him
He was missing his Mom and littermates
He is much better now as he stays around us almost all the time as we are retired
He hates to ride in the car and cries When we are riding
We are going to start leaving him for short periods of time slowly
We are never gone more than an hour most of the time it is only 15 to 20 minutes when we go to the store and pick up groceries or pick up my husbands medicine
All your suggestions are really helping us as we have never had a cockapoo before