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Seperation issues

7.6K views 55 replies 15 participants last post by  Pollypiglet  
#1 ·
So Vincent has been the dream dog so far, pooped in the house a sum total of once, no weeing in the house for over 2 months and he has no/little interest with trying to destroy our house!

But we're really having issues with seperation :( To begin with he was an angel, could go into his crate at night and no whining or barking until 6:30/7am. But over the past month it's like he's regressed and has really started to have issues with being left alone.
He barks and howls all night, even if I go to the toilet during the day (at weekends) with the door closed he scratches the door and barks really loudly and sounds very paniced.
Strangely it seems to be more when I'm about, I work full time so he's without me during the day (boyfriend works shifts so tends to be the primary carer!). Is it because he knows I go away during the day so when I'm with him he's extra clingy? He's started to get a little possesive of me, if I am sitting on the sofa he jumps up and sits on/right up next to me and gets grumpy if my boyfriend tries to sit with me (no growling, just huff huff noises).

I'm really worried that this is the start of maybe more serious separation issues, we had hoped to be able to leave him alone 4 hours at the most on weekdays (hiring a dog walker/sitter for the afternoon) but if he's having issues being alone we will of course have to rethink to accomidate what is best for him.

Should we move his crate into the bedroom? He's in the kitchen right now.

I just want a happy little man! It breaks my heart to see him sad :(
 
#44 ·
I'm feeling for you, Ladies. My son (age 2) had nightmares for the first time last night. After the second one, I brought him to our bed (I'm so much softer with the kids!) and then had an hour of him kicking me, slapping me and shoving his fingers up my nose, each one perfectly timed for the point when I was just dropping off to sleep. He got put back in his own bed after an hour and a half. I have had stern words tonight and told him that Daddy will come and see him if he cries tonight. Daddy is nowhere near as soft as me!

It's a shame your 'poos can't be reasoned with in the same way.
 
#45 ·
It always sounds much funnier when its happening to someone else:p
Daisy is just a pain in the bottom who wants to drink milk all night, Molly used to suffer with night terrors, that was awful, the only good thing was she never remembered any of it by morning.
My fingers are firmly crossed for a better night tonight:)
 
#47 ·
Last night was a nightmare :( Vincent refused to get into his crate, we had to almost force him in. Then he was awake until 2am crying and sniffing about. We were trying to be good and not talk to him or acknowledge him, but it got to the point where we really needed sleep so Dan sat up in bed and just stared at him! Vincent was quiet so we started saying 'good boy, it's ok' etc to try and reassure him.
After that he was asleep, and then my alarm went off at 6:30 ._. so so so tired!

We're going to keep it up and I think crate training is really the best way forward for him.
 
#48 ·
Last night was good! This time though I went to bed half an hour earlier than normal, read in bed, and put Vincent straight into his crate. he whined a little bit but seemed much happier with the lights on.
When I turned the lights off he got a bit grumbley but I just started saying 'Settle down, Settle'. We use settle at training group to get him to calm down around the other dogs...no idea why we didn't think of using it for his crate! He was quiet all night, woke up at the same time as us and seemed a much happier doggy this morning compaired to yesterday :)

We'll see how tonight goes!
 
#50 ·
Let's hope so...! I think once he realised that although he couldn't get to us we were still there he was ok. I think on Tuesday we're going to try and move the crate to a different position in the room, closer to the door. He won't be able to see us as well but should be able to hear us.
 
#51 ·
Glad to hear that last night was better for you Ruth :). That sounds like a good plan you have there.

I have spent three nights on the floor now, last night was not so good. I am struglling as I think being left upsets Daisy but also seeing me but not being able to get to me also upsets her! She started whining about 3am but like you I told her to settle down, I eventually let her out of her crate at 6am which is when I get up normally but because I work on Fridays I then went back to sleep until 7am and she laid next to me! I am not sure that would have been helpful to her training! :rolleyes:

I have also stopped her from coming up stairs again as I have realised that allowing her to follow me everywhere is not good for her issues!

Good luck again tonight, I hope that it continues for you. xx
 
#55 ·
I'm hoping I'm not jinxing it here but had a great day with Vincent :D
Normally when my boyfriend (or me) goes to work Vincent will sit by the door and howl and howl :(
Today though he watched Dan go to work, looked at me and made himself comfy on the sofa and started watching tv!! :D